I think he wants a baby but I don’t?
A bit of history I’m 20, he’s 23, I work full time, he’s unemployed on disability support pension, he has a hip replacement on his left saide which he had done when he was 16 or 17, the average lifespan of a hip replacement is 10 years before another one needs to be done, he keeps mentioning that one day he is going to be in a wheelchair after having the maximum amount of replacements he can have, also mentions that he doesn’t like wearing condoms and asks me on the odd occasion about babies examples include: “If we have a baby what would we call it?” “If we had a child who would look after it?” questions like that, he even asked me yesterday if I wanted a family with him one day, I’ve only been out of school 2 years, have only just got started in my career, I feel that I’m too young, but I get the feeling that is what he wants… a family but I’m not ready what should I do?
It’s your life. You must tell him now how you feel before it’s too late and you become an unhappy parent. We don’t need any more kids in this world with an unhappy, unfulfilled parent. If he won’t use condoms, then you must take the responsibility. It would be infinitely better if you both could agree on some plan BEFORE you marry (I’m assuming that you and he would marry before becoming parents). If you can’t agree now, then it’s good to find that out so that you both can seek partners who share your values.
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